Tuesday, November 28, 2017

BROKEN week 48

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted
    and saves the crushed in spirit.”
 (Psalm 34:18, ESV).


John 14:27 Voice
"My peace is the legacy I leave to you. I don't give gifts like those of this world. Do not let your heart be troubled or fearful."

Have you ever felt broken?  Like your soul, your heart, will not, indeed cannot, ever be the same?

Lately, I’ve been feeling like that - a lot. It may have something to do with our oldest daughters divorce. It may have something to do with betrayal of family values by someone I don't feel I know anymore. It may have something to do with leaving a church family that we love. It may have something to do with a change in my routine.  It may be a combination of all the above. But whatever the reason or reasons, I feel broken.

Yesterday afternoon, I was waiting in line at a pizza place and I felt tears well up. I wanted nothing more than to have a good cry...right there in Little Caesar’s. Instead, I took my writers notebook from my bag and started scribbling words. Words that described my current state of mind.

Words like:

Thoughts came pouring into my mind:
I’m ‘pit of the stomach’ sick. 
Why me Lord? 
Does anyone care, really care, if I cry?  
If they could see my heart is broken, would they whisper a prayer for me
And finally, the one that made those tears threaten to fall:
I’m here for everyone else, but when I crash, who’ll pick me up?  Oh God, I need a Life Coach...I need a friend...I need YOU!

And the cashier called me by name.

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By name. Not a number. Not by my last name. She didn’t catch my eye and jerk her head to indicate that my order was up. 

She simply smiled at me and called out over the noise, “Dreama.”

She called me by name, to her, I was just Dreama.

And I realized it was okay for me to be just Dreama. Not Coach Kelly, Mammy, Mom, or Sweetie...just Dreama. And it is okay for Just Dreama to feel broken, hurt, confused, disgusted and angry because the woman at Little Caesar’s wasn't the only one calling my name. 

 Jesus was doing the same, calling Dreama out I mean. Beckoning me forward to take what is mine. In my heart, I know He is telling me to lay down my sin of taking on a bunch of stuff that isn’t mine too carry. Stuff that no woman, life coach or no, is equipped to carry. He is calling me out so I can accept what He died to give me...the peace of His Holy Spirit. The strength that comes to His daughters when we are feeling broken. Peace that surpasses all understanding. Peace that comes when we are crucified with Christ (Galatians 2:20). Peace that comes when we no longer willfully live in sin (Romans 6:2). Peace that comes when we hear Him call our name and go to Him (Matthew 11:28). Peace that comes when He restores what was lost (Joel 2:25). Peace that comes from Him being near when we are broken (Psalm 34:18).

And I moved toward Him. Gladly reaching out for what He selflessly paid for with His very life.

Do I still feel broken? Yes. But I also feel His peace mending my soul, one faith filled step toward Him at a time. Step by step, He'll take this broken and make it mended.


Journal your thoughts here

This week, let’s  focus on healing.

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In Christ with Love and Compassion,

Be blessed today y'all
Coach Kelly

Thursday, November 23, 2017

Packing Heat vs. Peace Be Still

Is it just me or has the whole world gone crazy? 

For some reason lately, I’ve been waking up early - really early - like 2 or 4 AM early. This morning, Thanksgiving morning, my favorite morning ever - is no exception. But instead of the peace I normally feel on this day - I wake up thinking about guns and God.

In our nucular family alone, each adult has something to “pack” and I don't understand it. I mean, I get that we are living in a time in history where evil seems more pronounced - but personally, I think social media (no offense blogger) has simply magnified its presence. 

From the beginning of time, evil has been present and walking around just waiting for someone to embody. 

This morning, laying on the couch at 0330, I started thinking about the division, anger, hurt, and deception that has invaded  my family. Then I started - for some reason - thinking about the guns that will come into this house today - and it occurred to me that the weapon I carry is God’s  Word alone. 

And how it cuts to the bone yet brings peace. 

And the life storm I feel I’m in came to mind - again. 
But this morning - this day - I dont want to think, feel, see it. I want “Thanksgiving day-like” peace - especially today. 
Then it occurred to me: in the midst of this life storm, I don’t think I’ve really pulled out the big gun. I’ve talked about it, prayed about it, talked some more...but the simple words spoken by Jesus thousands of years ago: “Peace. Be still.,” have not come out of my mouth...until now. And now, I’m mad at myself for not fighting like the woman I am...with power, with assurance,  with the simple words “Peace. Be still.”

Now why hadn’t I thought of this before now?  How had the woman known by her kids to literally tell Satan to get out of her house not remembered to speak peace to this storm? Why have I allowed the evil that has somehow invaded our peaceful home, to be taking pot shots and get by with it?

It literally took me laying awake at 3AM quoting a few scriptures to realize that I had failed to speak to this storm. 
So here goes everything: 
“Peace. Be still.” Amen. 

Sunday, November 19, 2017

God's Branches week 47

"God's Branches"
Beyond the Mirror Week 47
“You didn’t choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you could go and produce fruit and so that your fruit could last. As a result, whatever you ask the Father in my name, he will give you.” (John 15:16, CEB).


1“I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinedresser. 2 Every branch in me that does not bear fruit he takes away, and every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit. 3 Already you are clean because of the word that I have spoken to you. 4 Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. 5 I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. 6 If anyone does not abide in me he is thrown away like a branch and withers; and the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire, and burned. 7 If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. 8 By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples. 9 As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. 10 If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father's commandments and abide in his love. 11 These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.  12 “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.” (John 15:1-12, ESV).
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I couldn’t get over those leaves though!
How can one vine produce such a variety of color?
I reckon the difference was in their response to the elements.
I had a hard time picking out my favorite color.
Each unique and beautiful in its own right.
So, I resolved that I didn’t need to pick a favorite color.
I could enjoy the bush as a whole.
I smiled as I felt the coolness of a fall rain tap my shoulders.
It was indeed a beautiful day.
And for that I was thankful.


Have you ever wondered by we are all so different? Why we react to the same stimuli with such a variety of responses?  
I come from a large family and like all families...we are unique. I was studying the picture of my siblings, our dad, and I taken the Thanksgiving we lost mom to cancer. It was bittersweet - the first one without mom and the last one with dad. I peered into our faces through the glass and smiled at each one.

We have pretty strong family genes so there are some dominant traits. Some we love, like our blue/green eyes, others not so much...but since we’d look pretty silly without a nose, we’ll focus on that cute little dimple instead and keep smiling. The physical traits we have little to no control over but some we do. Such as our variety of gifts and talents. We are all different yet similar in various stages of physical, emotional, and spiritual growth. Our personality differences made up for by our love of family, God, and fond memories of yesteryear. Products of the same family tree.

The really odd thing about our family is that we still like each other. We regularly have get togethers and family events even though our parents, the glue of most families, are no longer with us.  It got me to thinking, if we can be this diverse in a biological family and still love one another...why can’t the children of God do the same? Why is it so hard to appreciate our individual differences? Things He instilled within us to create a diverse and unique Body...why can’t we see His Body as a whole?


Daily scripture readings
Chosen by God
Different yet the same
Unique for a purpose
Born to bear fruit
Just be thankful!
Be happy being YOU!
His work, your hands

Journal your thoughts here

We’re all unique and have a unique job to do while on this earth. When we find the works that He has blessed us to do, we are content, happy, joyful...thankful. This week, list ways you are thankful for your work, then rejoice and be glad as you are doing it.  

Saturday, November 11, 2017

FILTERS week 46

Beyond the Mirror
week 46

“For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.”
(Hebrews 4:12)


I studied the angle of the daisy,
Noting droplets that had pooled on its petals.
Its rain washed color so vibrant, it almost looked fake.
I steadied the phone and lined up a perfect shot.
With a smile, I headed inside to edit and upload.
Coffee and phone in hand,
I sat oohing and awing over Instagram filters,
Showing John first one then another.
I smiled when we were in agreement:
The natural, unfiltered, unaltered shot was our favorite.
It was the one to share with my Facebook family.
Who needs filters anyway?


Other than the Bible shot, this cover is a collage of the same photo. One shot, lots of filters. I took a brilliant orange daisy and made it appear white, yellow, red, even variegated, simply by playing around with filters. It's amazing right, what we can do with filters nowadays?

Still, once in awhile, it's the original shot that speaks to our hearts. Those captured that do not require a lot of thought. Simple shots there for the taking. Those that are right and we just know it. Perfection. No need for filters. If only real life were that easy...

But it isn’t, is it?

Color bleeds into the black and white, gets bordered by grey, and becomes very confusing. So we start applying filters. Filters to help us understand, hoping they’ll make life easier, less complicated if you will.

Filters of social norms: those that justify our actions by the actions of others. Filters that sometimes make us lose sight of biblical truths.

Filters of personal wants: those that make WWJD nothing more than letters on a bracelet...not a filter for real life.

Filters of acceptance: filters that, slowly, filter out our Christian worldview...one acceptable sin, one normalized worldly behavior, at a time.

And we get lost in the edits.

What we once thought would make life less complicated becomes a stumbling block for our Christian walk...a walk now filtered through the lens of compromise. And just like the daisy shot, the original version of our true self becomes hard to pick out.

Does this have to be true for today’s Christian? Are there Godly filters for us to use that would showcase Jesus to the world around us? Well, maybe just a few...for starters, let's look at Galatians 5:22:

Listed there are filters of: unconditional love; Joy; Peace; Patience; Kindheartedness; Goodness; Faithfulness; Gentleness; Self-control. Paul calls these fruits of the Holy Spirit. But when we use them as filters, we see the world through Christlike eyes. These fruits, filters if you will, have a direct impact on our spiritual maturity and on our relationship with Jesus Christ...and the world around us.

What this means for us is that we get to be an active participant in our real life.

We get to choose “The Filter of the Day.”  Just as we are the only person who can write our life story, no one else can develop our relationship with Jesus, filter our real life, or develop our spiritual fruit. These jobs, responsibilities really, are ours alone.

Even in real life situations, we can adjust the temperature, determine the saturation, enhance the highlights, or apply a crop to the scenes we find ourselves in. In other words, we can filter out some, enhance some, add overlays to the bland, or embellish the good to make it better. Each of us are in charge of developing our life’s story; and for the filters we place upon it.

What filter will you choose today?


Daily scripture readings
Produces Light
Sharpens Focus
Shows us what to crop
Enhances the mundane
Reveals & corrects flaws
Intensifies Light
Enhances quality


Journal your thoughts here - consider ways you use the Bible as a filter in real life

Be blessed today y'all - In Christ with love and compassion - Coach Kelly

#BeyondTheMirror #YourLifeCoachingWV

Saturday, November 4, 2017

beyond BEAUTIFUL week 45

Beyond the Mirror
Week 45

"A capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman--who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls." 
(Proverbs 31:10 AMPC)

Beyond the Mirror is a beautiful woman. 
She may be funny. She may be shy. She may be confidant or uncertain at times.
Beyond the Mirror is a woman who knows her value. She plans her days for the benefit of her family. Her desire is to reflect His light. Created in His image, with a heart full of love, she learns to look beyond the mirror. For she  knows that beyond her mirror, truly, she is "Beyond BEAUTIFUL."

Proverbs 31. What an amazing chapter for us women to study this week. Within it are listed characteristics that define a truly beautiful woman.

Within the Mirror lies vanity and deception.  But beyond it, staring back at us from the depths of our soul, is the woman God created us to be...a Proverbs 31 woman of God.

Daily scripture readings 
Proverbs 31


Proverbs 31:10
Proverbs 31:20
Proverbs 31:24
Proverbs 31:27
Proverbs 31:29

Proverbs 31:26
Proverbs 31:17

Journal your thoughts here

Equipped by fall finds us ready to develop a relationship with the woman beyond the mirror. 

This week, journal about who you are beyond the mirror. Be honest with yourself and God. It may be harder than you think!

#BeyondTheMirror #YourLifeCoachingWV 


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