Thursday, January 26, 2017

It is just the blahs

"Everyone who goes on ahead and does not abide in the teaching of Christ, does not have God. Whoever abides in the teaching has both the Father and the Son" (2 John 1:9, ESV).

Have you ever had day when blah best describes how you are feeling? A day when you're not sick, not tired, not overly stressed...just...blah? That was me this morning. I wasn't running late. I wasn't too far ahead of schedule. Nothing jumped out at me as being wrong. I was just feeling blah.

So, as a counter measure, I started counting my blessings.  Being thankful for materialistic things, for my family, and my current life curmustance - you positive thinkers know the drill. But halfway through,  a thought occurred to me: What if all these things were stripped away. What if all I had was my relationship with God? Would my current relationship with Him be enough to sustain me? Have I put enough of His word into my soul to get me through? 

Don't get me wrong, its a good practice to count blessings to boost a blah mood. One I strongly encourage. But my question remains: If all tangible blessings disappeared  - how would I lift myself up? In other words, where does my hope truly rest?

I can quote scriptures to proclaim the Christian answer...but how much I truly believe them remains to be seen. Unlike a lot of folks, I can still count tangible blessings. I can still see positively.  So before I criticize someone who can't, maybe I'd do well to ask myself once again: If all I had was God...would I believe Him to be enough...

Wishing you a blessed weekend full of His best inside...where it matters.

In Christ with Love and Compassion,
Coach Kelly

Saturday, January 21, 2017

The Life Journey week 4

Photo Credit D. Kelly @ Hardy Co., WV


"Continue to trust in God and do what you know is right. Some people have not done this, and their faith is now in ruins"
(1 Timothy 1:19, ERV).


​West Virginia’s country roads make driving challenging. We get all the elements: rain, snow, ice, fog, heat, hail, sleet; we get traffic jams caused by tractors, coal or poultry trucks; and we have to be on the lookout for our wildlife. The most challenging, of course, is weather related. Consider our random foggy days.  As the above picture shows, within a few feet, lines of vision range from completely clear to a blanket of thick fog.  But since these country roads lead us home, we’ve learned to navigate them with the knowledge that any particular day could quickly become an interesting drive.

And so is real life...

There are times when a situation is completely out of our hands. Times when we find ourselves totally dependent upon someone else. And those times are not easy. They are right down hard. Scary times [Proverbs 3:5-6].

These are the times when we have to trust in Someone honest and strong. It’s during life’s hard seasons that we need to seek the Holy Spirit's guidance; to search the Bible for answers on how to work through it. These are the times we trust Him to lead us. [Jeremiah 29:11].

This path  may not be one we'd have  chosen for ourselves;  no place we’d go on purpose. It does not resemble anything we want...but God's best, in God's timing, will  get us through. Lead us to that next checkpoint of light. To the breakthrough we need. And reveal His love and mercy.
[Acts 14:22]

In my own life, I didn't want to be a divorced, single mother. I never intended to live paycheck to almost paycheck...but it happened...and I survived. It hurt and I cried. It got ugly and I cussed. It got better and I praised God. I had to walk through thorns; I was humbled and pricked. But ultimately, through a lot of pain and tears, it was the near loss of all hope, which in the long run, led me – forced me even – to find renewed faith in God's grace; in His strength; in His peace. It was God that walked through the fog with me [1 Timothy 1:19].

Ladies, life's journey is just that: a journey. It has a beginning, a middle, and an end. It isn't defined by any single point in our history. It's defined by how we deal with the accumulation of stuff. Stuff that we face and deal with. This stuff helps define us.  And the Holy Spirit's role in our life is tested through this stuff. Right here in the middle of a messy life we have a choice to make. We can either embrace or reject Him. The choice is ours to make [ Psalm 9:10].


It’s funny. Life I mean. Not funny ‘ha ha’ but funny unusual. Especially on days when we’re traveling along, in the warmth of light, life seemingly going our way. Then, out of the blue, fog sets in. Surrounding us. Taking our breath. Making it hard to breathe. Making it impossible to clearly see what is coming up next. And it hurts….But then, just when we are at our lowest, when our fog is so thick, heavy all around us, we catch a glimmer of light. A glimpse of hope. And those little bits of hope, those little glimmers of light, they help us navigate through the fog.
Giving us a desire to breathe, to look up and feel the Light.

It is those little glimmers of hope, of light, of God, that gives us courage. Courage that keeps us going. Courage that helps us break through to the next season of life’s journey…And then, with that courage we forgot we could possess through the Holy Spirit, we continue on with boldness. With hope. Seeking the Light as we go [Psalm 46:10].




I encourage you to not give up before you break through the fog [James 2:17] -  the Light is always in reach.

Journal your thoughts here
-What ‘fog’ has me trapped?
-Why do I  need to give it over to the Holy Spirit?  
-Have I asked (empowered) Him to help me through this?
-What does the Bible say about this?
-Am I willing to follow the unction of the Holy Spirit when I feel Him stirring within?
-Can I  humble myself to let Him work in my life?
-Am I willing give up control and follow His lead?


Hey y'all be blessed!
In Christ with love and compassion,

Coach Kelly

Your Life Coaching WV

Friday, January 13, 2017

No. Not Today. week 3

"God already knows our deepest thoughts" Romans 8:27a (ERV).
Photo Credits: D. Kelly, Grant Co., WV

“Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart”
(2 Timothy 2:22).


It came to mind.
That thing I don’t like giving in to.
Yet, time and time again…it has won.
Somehow overpowering my good senses
Alluring me to give in.
And sometimes…I do even though
I have learned it to be a poor sport.
Because after I give in – after it wins –
My ‘Christian’ label is mocked.
It mocks my weakness – condemning me – and I feel lost…again.
But not today.
Today, I will remind myself that through the power of The Holy Spirit,
I can overcome.
Today I can look beyond the temptation
And see Jesus smiling at His reflection in me.
Today, I choose to take control over my flesh.
Today I simply choose to say “No.”
Tomorrow…I may be weak.
Tomorrow…I may give in.
But today?
No not today.
Today I remember that I have been empowered to overcome.

Baltasar Gracian once said "Never open the door to a lesser evil, for other and greater ones invariably slink in after it.” (; January 2017). I like this quote – a lot – it holds great wisdom.

The old testament is full of stories where God-fearing people have given in to their flesh. Some committed adultery, some murder, some lied, others stole, the list goes on and on. And if we’re honest with ourselves, it isn’t too hard to find our weakness listed in those pages.

And just as those old timers did not get a free pass, neither will we. There are consequences to face and lessons to be learned. Although I have learned a lot from my mistakes...I am still learning.

Lesson one has been learned by resisting my personal weakness. I should feel great right? Nope. Not at first; because my flesh screams and my head reasons. I want to give in. And dread sets in for a little while.

Second lesson learned after I give in: My spirit grieves and my flesh…well, it still isn’t satisfied. Sound familiar?

The Bible says in Matthew 26:41 that we should watch and pray so that we do not fall into temptation – that our spirit is willing to overcome but our flesh is weak. I can totally relate to this verse. Today, I fought temptation, put my flesh under submission. Today I won. What temptation will you overcome today…so that it can’t taunt you tomorrow?

Journal your thoughts here

  • Is there a certain temptation that you give in to – and later regret?
  • Can you identify ‘triggers’ for this temptation?
  • How do you feel when you resist?
  • How do you feel when you give in?
  • What impact does giving in to this temptation have on your circle of influence (family – coworkers – church family)
  • Does giving in to this temptation leave a negative impact on you? (emotionally – financially – behaviorally – attitude)
  • Is giving in worth the impact/cost?


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Have a blessed weekend y'all
In Christ with love and compassion,

Coach Kelly

Your Life Coaching WV

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Just tell me no.

"Oh star light. Oh star bright...Lord help me pray this prayer just right"
Dreama Kelly, Your Life Coaching WV - Beyond the Mirror

1 Timothy 6:6-8 (ESV)
"Now there is great gain in godliness with contentment, for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world.
But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content."

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I was driving into the office this morning and my heart's desire came to mind. I started to pray about it and stopped.  What if He says "Okay Dreama, here ya go." and I don't like the consequences? What then? How can I get the contentment and peace that I have now back?  So, before the prayer came out of my mouth I stopped and rephrased it and here's why:

It is too easy to set our eyes on something that we want, or think we want, and then pray for God to give it to us. And if we're persistent enough, He may very well allow us to have it...but maybe more as an object lesson than a blessing. 

Recently, I witnessed how an answered prayer can become a burden. And so I have concluded that sometimes, maybe a lot of times, it's best for God to just tell me no. So my mid-week post is actually my morning prayer: "Father, You know what my heart desires. But if it isn't what I need, if it is outside of Your perfect will for me and my Neighbors, if it is not as good as I have built it up in my mind...then please Father, just tell me no."

Have a blessed Wednesday y'all,

In Christ with love and compassion,

Coach Kelly
#YourLifeCoachingWV #BeyondTheMirror #WVStrong

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Echoes of a Broken Life

Photo Credit: Z. Rexroad @ Pendleton Co., WV

Winter Week 2: “ Echoes of a Broken Life”


“For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come…shall be able to separate us from the love of God…” (Romans 8:38-39).



2 Corinthians
2 Timothy
1 Peter


Life didn’t always look like this. 

Sometimes it was better, sometimes worse. 
But there was always one unbroken remnant of me: Faith in God. 
Faith that someway, sometime, He would get me through…somehow.
Life almost shattered me, even tried to separate me from Him. 
Ah but it didn’t understand that only through my brokenness, could His healing hand work.
It didn’t understand that, when I was weak, it was His strength that lifted me upright. 
Oh this real life gave me beatings at times. 
Its despair knew no bounds…or so it seemed. 
But then God…through it all…He remained. 
Always present. Always loving. Always near. 
He stood by patiently, comforting me, guiding me, encouraging me to keep going. 
Then, one by one, He gently put the broken pieces back together.  
Careful to not shatter, completely, what was left of me. 
Finally, through the cracks of this once broken vessel, past the echoes of a once-upon-a-time-life, I can clearly see His unfailing love. ​​ 

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Honestly ladies, none of us have had a perfect life. We have experienced our own struggles with personal crosses to bear. Things we regret. Things we would never want to experience again. But it is these very things that have shaped the person we are right now. Even shaping who we are becoming. 

During this Winter of Empowerment, it is important to remember life lessons learned. Not to dwell on them as a burden; but to recall how God helped us through those.  As we remember His presence, let’s seek the Holy Spirit’s wisdom and guidance on how to persevere.   Let’s focus on how to become courageous under fire.


Journal your thoughts here
Take a few minutes to meditate on what your 'perfect life' would look like. Consider what you need to attain and what you need to purge. 

What came to mind when I considered my perfect life?
To this point in time, what real life experiences have shaped me?
Have I accepted these experiences as a part of who I am?
How can I use my real life experiences to grow in my relationship with Jesus Christ and help others?


Be Inspired today y'all,
In Christ with love and compassion,

Coach Kelly

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